This is the third episode of our podcast series Learn English. You can listen to the previous episodes here:
Episode 1: My recipe for happiness
Episode 2: Keeping the spark alive
This episode lays out the facts about life with a baby or a toddler and how it’s not always as sweet as you might have imagined.
The myths and taboos of motherhood
Hi! Thanks for joining me on today’s podcast, where we explore the myths and taboos of motherhood!
Being a mom is a beautiful journey, with many twists and turns, not to mention unexpected and surprising moments!
The truth is, nothing could truly prepare you for the life-changing experience of raising a child. Are you feeling nervous? Don’t worry. There are so many popular myths and taboos surrounding motherhood, and it’s finally time to bust them!
The first thing that we need to get straight is that being a mom is hard. It can be one of the most difficult things that a woman goes through in her life. Yet, it can also be the most rewarding, and the most natural feeling. Some parents experience a unique connection and glowing satisfaction when they have children. This is definitely a big part of it, but it’s not all about positive emotions. There could be some anxiety, stress, sleep deprivation, guilt, and depression. If you are worried because you are feeling like that, it’s important to know that it’s perfectly common and that you are not the only one! The reason why this might seem like such an unusual thing is that most parents seldom want to talk about their anxieties.
Mothers are afraid of being judged or misunderstood if they openly discuss the negative sides of parenting. This is why it’s important to connect with others who may be sharing your experience. It’s always healthy to talk to like-minded parents, and it will make you feel less alone.
Another damaging myth is about the bond between mother and child. In Hollywood, the mother feels an undying connection with her child, the moment a baby is born. The way that motherhood is depicted in films can give people false expectations.
This is especially true when mothers may not feel that immediate connection. Life isn’t a movie. Sometimes, love and connection can grow slowly. Think of it as a gradual development, rather than a lightning bolt.
If you think that you’re struggling emotionally, talk to your doctor and discuss therapy options. Sometimes talking to someone can be very helpful.
As your baby gets older, things can get more complicated, especially when you need to lay the foundations for discipline.
Children are smart and can quickly learn how to push your buttons to get what they want!
Screen time is a major issue, as technology can be addictive and become a bargaining chip. Here’s the most important thing to remember…It’s ok to be flexible!
Discipline and guidance are important. However, you should also learn how to be flexible, because things might vary, depending on the situation.
Motherhood is a learning curve. You’re allowed to have doubts, negative emotions, moments where you let things slide. Just remember to be easy on yourself, you’re doing a great job. Even just the fact that you are listening to a podcast like this one means that you care a lot!
Get advice when you can, but ultimately, trust your own instincts. Your ancestors have been raising children for a long time, so you can do it as well!
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